I am looking for the lowest hanging fruit(s) here. Behavioural changes take ages. Ask Woody Allen.
Small changes 1% at a time is what I am after....like every thing else in life.
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I am looking for the lowest hanging fruit(s) here. Behavioural changes take ages. Ask Woody Allen.
Small changes 1% at a time is what I am after....like every thing else in life.
Find people you know/friends who also work from home and ask if they want to be on a voice chat with you all day.
Again very similar, we moved from life in big cities to the countryside. Totally feel what you shared. Covid and in general making new friends in the countryside as newcomer seems extremely difficult. Everyone around us already has their circles and years long established relationships. It's not easy for sure. But doable. I enjoy hobbies in the outdoors in the non snow season. That's when I got to know new folks. I don't feel coaching works for me. It's not like we can't identify the challenges. It's about working around those challenges. It's from exchanging thoughts and ideas like here to gain different perspectives.
Yes you can find something for any life situation. Even at -30 degrees Celsius you can cross country skiing (if you are hardcore) or snowmobile. But there is a difference between whether there are things to do on one hand and whether those things suit an individual's interests and passion. The trick is to find the things applicable in a certain setting that match with one's interests
i have broke ass friends, and i have well off friends. Seem like people who are well off always get into this existential crisis. I listen to how they talk which is eerily similar to your post.
my advice, go volunteer at a local food pantry. Should get rid of that bitch ass attitude you have; no offense
You could start up this elaborate game where people play children's games and kill each other for money, and even participate in it yourself for the thrill, while of course making sure nothing bad happens to you.
some good advice here on the board
...try and imagine this scenario.... you have a bad wife, one of your kids are out of hand, one of your kids is sick, you cant make ends meet, you fear you may be homeless shortly....now sit in all of that for a miniute or two only....now pull out of that fantasy and realise what you have...i know you do already appreciate your life but now you will appreciate it some more...
boredom also means you are not sitting in yourself, in your body... perhaps you refuse to go there as you may feel a little out of control...
remember there is an inner fight going on when bored...can you see it ? can you feel it ? a lot of people defend against it by keeping busy... i dont want to say too much more as one needs to be careful of the Uroboros effect... there is only so much self analysis one can do with oneself before getting swallowed and consumed.
all the best with it, i like your style and situation !
...try and imagine this scenario.... you have a bad wife, one of your kids are out of hand, one of your kids is sick, you cant make ends meet, you fear you may be homeless shortly....now sit in all of that for a miniute or two only....now pull out of that fantasy and realise what you have...i know you do already appreciate your life but now you will appreciate it some more...
boredom also means you are not sitting in yourself, in your body... perhaps you refuse to go there as you may feel a little out of control...
remember there is an inner fight going on when bored...can you see it ? can you feel it ? a lot of people defend against it by keeping busy... i dont want to say too much more as one needs to be careful of the Uroboros effect... there is only so much self analysis one can do with oneself before getting swallowed and consumed.
all the best with it, i like your style and situation !
best. post. ever.
asian ladies are my thang, my wife of 20 yrs from kobe. chinese girls are great, but tight af lol; my gf at ucla was a miss chinatown, so pretty. spent the night with 2 tokyo ladies at outrigger kauai once.., and 2 at sheraton fiji... dont hate the playa hate the game
this forum is fun for company with fellow traders
if i were single id be skyping/zoom/whatever with ladies on dating site apps
ps hidden bonus: if you marry a woman from asia and she cusses at you, no big deal because you dont know what tf shes saying ha
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I don't see he had a bitch ass attitude. He was genuinely sharing his situation and issues. I can empathize with his situation. I don't think it has anything to do with rich or poor at all. Most people I have seen around in town who are rather poor are in the exact same situation, except that a lot of people without means look for escapes and solutions through means that are commensurate with what they can afford. Poor people may not be able to afford a life coach but they get drunk or smoke a joint and temporarily feel happy about it. Nothing wrong with that but it might not be the right choice for everyone to tackle a given problem. Not mine anyway. Some places on earth just don't offer the same opportunities and amenities as others do. Breaking into such communities is not easy and takes time and adaptation.