bottom line: Kobe's an idiot. Here's a guy with a hot wife, and a great life, and he really needs to finish sex with some flake who led him on and then tepidly said no (if that's true)?
Most guys would be mad that some floozy led them on the way she did, but most guys would also stop if they were halfway inside the girl and she changed her mind (which is what I think happened).
Only a superstar who thinks he's above it all would get angry at the floozy, and bend her over and finish it.
But of course, he'll be found innocent, and he should be.