THE FIRST RULE FOR LIFE (An amalgamation of thoughts)
Determine God's call on your life, and then do it!
We are all going to be tested in life, but if you have a sustaining meaning, it will help shield you against life taking you out. As Friedrich Nietzsche said, “He who has a why can bear any how.” And the “how,” when it comes to bearing up against life, is to have a sustaining meaning…it is to do meaningful things.
According to Peterson, life can throw some pretty tough situations your way, a fact that is ineradicable (unable to be destroyed or removed) at its core. An if given the opportunity, life will take you out, make no mistake about it! So, you need to be armed with virtue in order for that not to turn into hell.
And then maybe it isn’t just your hell—maybe that’s not just for you—in which case, not only are you suffering, but it’s like you’re taking it out on your family as well, and that can be
really bad—especially when you’re contributing to it, because you know you’re the agent.
And if you’re really good at it, you’ll also take out large swaths of your community. That’s hell! And no one with any sense and any experience has any doubt that that’s real. And then you can easily think how even though it’s already bad, you could make it way worse. Everyone knows that.
So, what’s the bulwark against that? Sometimes, the answer can be found by looking in the dark places. But why would you look in the darkest places?
It’s because in the darkest places you can find what still shines. If it can shine in the darkest places (like Christ on the cross) then you know it’s a real light. And so you look at things you don’t want to look at. But ultimately, the answer against it is: Nobility of purpose…and that’s it.
If you have that, then you have something to set against the suffering and the malevolence of life. And it isn’t optional. You cannot live without it. That’s why meaning is such a deep instinct. It’s the instinct of life.
When someone says, “My life is meaningless,” they are lying because if their life were truly meaningless, they wouldn’t even care about it. What they are really saying is that the spirit has gone out of them—that they are wasting their existence—that they are out of sorts with themselves.
Modern secular society criticizes the idea of meaning so much that they don’t really believe in it anymore, which is all well and good…they can refuse to believe in it if they wish…but try living without it and see how far you get with that!
You need a reason to get out of bed on a terrible day. So, what is that reason going to be? Well, let’s think it through… People who can get out of bed on a terrible day are people who are taking responsibility for themselves, taking responsibility for others, doing difficult things, and doing them well.
So then, you give life meaning by putting in order what you can—by implementing the best plan you have at hand. Don’t remain in stasis. Aim at something and progress towards it. And you have to aim at something that you believe would be worth trying.
Start with what you know. For example, you know that God wants you to be aware of His will, so you start there—you start by reading the Bible. And you continue by doing something…
anything! It is impossible to steer a parked car, so if you want to fulfill your destiny, you have to get moving first. So then, start doing
something—but especially if it is something that supports what God is doing in some way. And from there, God can lead you to your ultimate destination.
Beyond that, do everything that you do with excellence, as if you were doing it for God and not for other people. And do so whether everyone is looking, or no one is looking. Also, consider what things make you angry and if there is something you could do to address such injustices. Or in what areas do you have natural talent? Perhaps that's where you should be focusing your energy.
Then finally, ask yourself quality questions, because quality questions create a quality life. They direct your mental focus and ultimately determine how you think and feel. The key is to develop a pattern of questions that empower your true nature. For example, try focusing on questions such as:
- What is it that makes me the happiest?
- What is there in life that I get genuinely excited about?
- What am I most proud of in my life?
- What am I most grateful for?
- What am I enjoying most in life right now?
- What am I committed to?
- Who do I love?
By making quality questions a regular part of your life, you will be able to access your most empowering emotional states; and over time, as you consistently practice doing so, you will be able to create mental highways to happiness, excitement, pride, gratitude, joy, commitment and love—which is who you are at your core.
Another way to really get to know yourself is to answer the following three questions. Doing so will help you to really see your “heart.” The three questions are:
- What do I dream about?
- What do I sing about?
- What do I cry about?
If you know the answers to these questions, you will know where to look to begin finding your true purpose in life. If you ask and honestly answer these three questions, it will help you to connect with who you
really are. What
do you dream about, sing about, and cry about? Answer these three questions honestly and you will have a better idea of what really matters and is important to you, and who you really are deep inside.
But it’s not enough to simply know this. Then you have to act on and live in accordance with this knowledge. Do what matters! This is the first rule of life. Do what matters.