If you're a guy woud you get married today?

I'm an older guy and my advice to young men about marriage is:

  • Yes, getting married is a good thing.

    Votes: 24 40.7%
  • No, getting married is not worth it.

    Votes: 35 59.3%

  • Total voters
    59
Quote from PAPA ROACH:

This is actually a good social exercise. I would be interested in knowing if those that responded not to get married came from broken home backgrounds (parents divorced), and those that responded yes to marriage, have parents that stayed together.

I for one believe in the responsibility of providing a strong family backbone for my 3 children; a nuturing home life and moral support. This is a crazy world that seems to go more Sodom and Gomorrah each passing decade. Look at the mockery that Hollywood has created.

My parents were married for almost 60 yrs, (my father passed away this past May). The example they set and childhood received has given me a solid foundation for life in numerous aspects. Am I alone in this thought? I don't think so, many of my friends that had divorced parents have struggled a little more with various life skills and relationships.

The generations seem to get a little more "entitled" as time goes on. Very selfish behavior and an "It's all about me" attitude.

Bottom line is, nobody should get married to someone just to be married. But if you find the right person and plan on a family, it is a moral responsibility, because it is NOT just all about you anymore. Your actions will have large implications in the lives of your children.


Do you actually believe your own bullshit? I can show you just as many divorced children from homes just like the one you outlined above. I have seen people come from broken homes who were determined to make it and have. You are full of it.
 
Quote from Kassz007:

The only reason I can see why marriage is necessary is for religious folk. Other than that, I don't see a reason as to why two people can't share their lives together, have kids, etc. without getting married.

Let's face it guys - most of us get married because we know our significant others want to. Most women will eventually give the ultimatum - we get married or I move on to someone who will marry me. So we marry the woman we want to spend our lives with, for the simple reason that she'll leave if we don't.

do some woman a favor and dont get married
 
Quote from r-in:

I was thinking about this topic, instead of trading, so someone owes me a days pay.

A days pay? No problem. I will email you my address so you can send me $500 dollars to make up for the money you didnt lose today. :D :p :D
 
Quote from PAPA ROACH:

This is actually a good social exercise. I would be interested in knowing if those that responded not to get married came from broken home backgrounds (parents divorced), and those that responded yes to marriage, have parents that stayed together.


I voted for Marriage. Both my parents & wifes parents never were divorced.
 
Marriage is risky business. If it works out you will have a nice life but if it goes sour you will live in hell. Close to 95% of married people live in hell. Marriage is something to judge from its results, not from its objectives.

I think it is better to find a woman who is suffering a lot from a bad mariage and convince her to get a divorce and come to live with you than trying to meet young, pretty free girls who behave like boys of the 1980s.
 
My wife sent this to me. Part of a joke about older women and men. Seems appropriate for this thread.:D

For all those men who say, 'Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?' Here's an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!"
:eek: :eek: :eek:
 
I don't think anyone is doubting the benefits of sharing your life with someone, providing a stable family/home life for your children, etc. That's all lovely and beautiful. For me, the question is why go through the actual process of getting married? Why can't two people spend their lives together, have children, be great parents etc. without actually getting married? What is the difference? Besides legal (taxes) and religious reasons.

Legally there would not be much difference in a split, there would still be a legal mess with minor children involved.
 
it's the fear of the woman changing that keeps me single. after she says "I do", maybe she'll gain 40 pounds; maybe she becomes lazy because you have money and it's now hers; maybe she becomes a nagging machine. and when you're dating, you can put up with PMS and the typical bouts of emotional instability, but the thought of living with that for 25 yrs scares the crap outta me.

by keeping the relationship as "dating", you force her to continue to work at the relationship.
 
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