Quote from FB123:
A lot of losing discretionary traders make exactly the same mistake that you just made in that paragraph, and that's why they lose.
You said:
"...and being a sore loser at trading means that instead of exiting a trade and admit you made a mistake, you double up your losing positions (until you have margin for more future contracts), and often manage to recoup losses (sooner or later it will go up), but the few times that it keeps going against you, you blow out your account."
Do you see the logical fallacy in this statement? You are thinking that being "right" on a single trade is something important, that it reflects on your ability as a trader. That is what is implied when you say "instead of exiting a trade and admit you made a mistake, you double up your losing positions". Don't you realize that it is impossible to predict what any one given trade will do?That essentially, every single trade you make is a crap-shoot? You can't control where the market is going to go. It could go up, it could go down. You could enter a trade perfectly and have it be a loser, and you can enter the worst trade in the world and have it turn to go in your favor to be a massive winner. The point is not to win on any one given trade, but to accept that you can't control what any trade will do, just the overall outcome of a lot of trades. So why in the world would you want to double down to make back money on that one trade, when you never had control over it to begin with?
Also, if you look at it objectively, is it realistic to expect that you will always trade perfectly and not make any mistakes? Logically speaking, of course it isn't. So when mistakes happen, why would you get mad? They are a normal part of being a trader. The difference between loser and winners is that winners accept that any one trade is irrelevant, so they don't care if it turns out "right" or "wrong" - only the final result matters over a lot of trades. Also, winners accept the fact that they will be making make mistakes all the time, and don't get angry when they make them... they just try to correct them, but know that they will never succeed 100%. Losers on the other hand are always trying to do the impossible like win on every trade or never make any mistakes, and when of course it doesn't work they jump off the deep end and blow up their accounts.
It's really not more complicated than that.
When you enter a position and it goes against you, and when you start getting angry about it, you are essentially getting angry at something that was never in your control from the start. The key to winning is to accept this simple fact, and the reason for the anger and the desire to "get back" at the market will naturally go away.
In any case, good for you that you have determined that discretionary trading is not for you, and decided to go the automated route - making money in any way is always a good thing.