Def,
I accept IB for what it is, an excellent platform alternative for many people, particularly those who can benefit from the great commissions. But I have to say that there is no doubt that equities traders do indeed see the market trade significantly through their stop...more so than is explainable by anything but what it is: IB sometimes does not send your stop out to market in a timely fashion, and sometimes even fails to send them at all.
The latter case is actually not as bad since in every case I have ever heard, IB will honor the stop price (not the likely fill price), but only IF you leave your order there. It is very difficult as a day trader watching the market run away (and your account drain) hoping that the stop never executes so that you can raise someone on the phone to get your wanted fill, and I know many traders who can't stand it, cancel, and resend an exit order (which seems to guarantee that IB will not honor the stop). Indeed, I opened an account at another broker to concentrate on those certain strategies that require tighter and more reliable stops. I still use IB for options and some "less hyper" equities trading, and may use it even more if I increase my NQ trading.
Granted, the failed stops do not happen often, but it certainly happens often enough to be noticeable. I realize that whenever you use a simulated (held) stop order you introduce an additional potential failure point for the benefit of "hiding" your intentions from the market. I just don't know what to do about this, other than running my stops manually when trading my IB account. IB has been making progress in this area, now allowing clients to configure their stop triggers, but I wish there was a way to make the problem go away completely. Then again, I used to wish that IB would provide a more modern interface with truly streaming quotes and a more serious (and integrated) charting/L2 capabilities. But I always decide in the end that I don't want that at the expense of higher commissions and additional fees. Even with it's shortcomings, IB occupies a valid spot in my aresenal for the strengths and benefits they bring to the table.
--Derek