How to overcome the inability to accept small losses when wrong on trades?

I trade a discretionary chart reading method based on momentum reading and accumulation / distribution chart patterns.

The problem is that when I start trading ... I get caught in a bad trade where I am wrong in my analysis or my entry is not that great, I just let my account bleed out and only bail when the pain is very bad, rather than when I knew I should have.

I can imagine that this is a common enough issue for discretionary traders.

only for those who do not have clear, defined rules

that is imho the source of your problem

has nothing to do with psychology

the deficiency that's repeatedly producing that outcome for you is mostly in your trading education and understanding, not your psychology.

In other words, replace discretion with rules for entry, stop loss, profit target based. The more "mechanical" one can make these rules, and the less input from the trader required to manage the trade to completion, the better.
 
I've read 100+ books on trading and this is the best one on how to deal with the mental aspect of losses
There might be a mental aspect, but it has nothing to do with generating a profit, which is based on knowledge, experience, information, resources, and probability.
 
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there are instruments that would allow you to only create positions where you couldn't sabotage your trades even if you tried to.

Fascinating. Then why isn't the whole world doing what you are doing? And in fact, what are you doing, and can it be done with less than 7-8 figures in an account?
 
There might be a mental aspect

but it has nothing to do with generating a profit
which is based on knowledge, experience, information, resources, and probability.

All of those latter things or aspects or variables you mentioned has a direct correlation to Mentality.
You can't escape mentality within trading...Mentality/psychology makes or breaks accounts on a daily basis o_O, :banghead:

Just look at the trading journals section of ET. All those paper 'traders' invariably blame themselves, or psychology/mentality.
Hindsight...woulda, coulda, shoulda semi-logical reasonings.

Trading successfully, the ability to generate fruitful, abundant, perpetual returns, is truly a collective dynamic process...that very few, rare traders ever accomplish.
Most traders just bobble up and down, essentially getting nowhere -- if not flat out failing and flailing.
I know it. and you know it....for everyone else in between...they are just too proud or in denial.

Trading the market will make most people feel...All Shook Up
Cocktail, 1988 movie...Tom Cruise's business partner, Bryan Brown, blew his trading account betting everything on commodities.
and then blew his brains out in his rich wife's yacht.
He claimed his specialty was being able to 'read between the lines' in the financial market.
 
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I am having a very hard time with this psychological aspect of trading. I trade a discretionary chart reading method based on momentum reading and accumulation / distribution chart patterns. Been studying the method / charts for close to 10 months now and there is definitely an edge there in my ability to foresee possible moves before they happen. It's not perfect, and I get confused between time frames still but it is a method with an edge.

The problem is that when I start trading with leverage on full size futures contracts I have a run of good trades and make some money but then as soon as I get caught in a bad trade where I am wrong in my analysis or my entry is not that great, I just let my account bleed out and only bail when the pain is very bad, rather than when I knew I should have. There is some kind of psychological issue that makes me self sabotage for being wrong on the trade, like a punishment or something. I know I should bail but just cannot bring myself to doing it, then after I feel terrible shame for not being able to act.

I've read both the Mark Douglas books multiple times, read Psycho-Cybernetics and spend lots of time thinking about this stuff but still last week I got blown out on a stupid trade where I couldn't accept that my entry was wrong! This was after a month and a half of daily trading on GC / CL.

I can imagine that this is a common enough issue for discretionary traders. I am getting tired of blowing out accounts or getting margin calls. I don't want to give up on trading but I cannot seem to learn this very important risk management lesson for some reason.

It's frustrating to have to keep funding my account out of my savings. I have enough to keep doing this for a long time but still it is not an ideal situation obviously. This is a lesson that I must learn NOW before I do even more damage to myself financially and emotionally.

Has anyone that had this issue been able to over come it? How long did it take? What path did you take to get your head right?

Sounds like you’re trading wo hardstops and that you could use some practice with wash trades. Best to practice as a drill prior to implementing live for it takes a bit to fully understand and incorporate into sports memory.

The basic idea is to have definable reference points of price relative to one’s entry. If price isn’t moving as one expected quickly, then the if1 flag is triggered as price moves against the prior bar’s close, this is a head’s up. If2 is triggered by price moving against the prior bar’s high (short) or low (long) then the current entry is invalid and take timely appropriate action.

You’ll have to play with timescales for to do this on the 5m requires a lot of concentration, focus and creates a lot of small losses until one figures out how to filter some signals and amplify others.

There’s the shared range between high volatility bars that can best be described as congestion. This area will make the concept of if1/if2 apa seem like a very bad idea.

As with all chart reading on fast timescales, to see inside the current bar / inside the market requires monitoring the DOM and T&S.

The exercise will demonstrate how accurate one’s entries are and how often they are not. Even if price eventually goes in the original direction, refining one’s timing imho is what intraday trading is all about. This is the thought to isolate “Hold and it will come back my way.”
If your methodology isn’t signaling why that thought is true, then this is the trap of random reward.

In the timing of a cycle, there’s early, on-time and late.

For more details, search Jack Hershey’s if1/if2 APA. In and of itself, it’s a very small piece of a comprehensive methodology and has limitations when used in isolation.

However as an exercise, it’s valuable in training oneself to accept losses much smaller than they otherwise would have been when one is on the wrong side of the market.

HTH
 
In other words, replace discretion with rules for entry, stop loss, profit target based.
no,

discretion still there , because regardless of how many rule one has , one has to decide which rule(s) should apply in current situation, especially if its a complicated situation when several rules coincide
 
I am having a very hard time with this psychological aspect of trading. I trade a discretionary chart reading method based on momentum reading and accumulation / distribution chart patterns. Been studying the method / charts for close to 10 months now and there is definitely an edge there in my ability to foresee possible moves before they happen. It's not perfect, and I get confused between time frames still but it is a method with an edge.

The problem is that when I start trading with leverage on full size futures contracts I have a run of good trades and make some money but then as soon as I get caught in a bad trade where I am wrong in my analysis or my entry is not that great, I just let my account bleed out and only bail when the pain is very bad, rather than when I knew I should have. There is some kind of psychological issue that makes me self sabotage for being wrong on the trade, like a punishment or something. I know I should bail but just cannot bring myself to doing it, then after I feel terrible shame for not being able to act.

I've read both the Mark Douglas books multiple times, read Psycho-Cybernetics and spend lots of time thinking about this stuff but still last week I got blown out on a stupid trade where I couldn't accept that my entry was wrong! This was after a month and a half of daily trading on GC / CL.

I can imagine that this is a common enough issue for discretionary traders. I am getting tired of blowing out accounts or getting margin calls. I don't want to give up on trading but I cannot seem to learn this very important risk management lesson for some reason.

It's frustrating to have to keep funding my account out of my savings. I have enough to keep doing this for a long time but still it is not an ideal situation obviously. This is a lesson that I must learn NOW before I do even more damage to myself financially and emotionally.

Has anyone that had this issue been able to over come it? How long did it take? What path did you take to get your head right?

The inability to accept losses that encourages a small loss to grow into a big loss along with ending the cycle of blowing out trading accounts is only an issue for discretionary traders or any other type of traders when they don't use a stop.

Solution: Start using stops

Yet, if your trade strategy and trading plan has been backtested...you should know what your trading results are with stops versus without stops.

Using that info should "encourage" you to do one and not the other. Your ability to follow that trading plan with the results of your backtesting will let you know if you have discipline problems.

If you have discipline problems...its psychological.

wrbtrader
 
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In other words, replace discretion with rules for entry, stop loss, profit target based. The more "mechanical" one can make these rules, and the less input from the trader required to manage the trade to completion, the better.

You can be a discretionary trader that uses a rule base trade method. On the flip side...you can be a discretionary trader with no rules or very little rules.

I define a discretionary trader as someone that is not 100% automated.

wrbtrader
 
no,

discretion still there , because regardless of how many rule one has , one has to decide which rule(s) should apply in current situation, especially if its a complicated situation when several rules coincide
Yep, his is one of my go to statement that I use to filter out who the newbs are. It's counter intuitive. But if you understand how market fundamental works then you would understand why it's b.s.
 
discretion still there, because regardless of how many rule one has , one has to decide which rule(s) should apply in current situation, especially if its a complicated situation when several rules coincide

I understand what you are saying. I believe I trade with no discretion. I have few exceptions, themselves well-defined with rules. For example, suppose my set up appears and signals a short trade. However, the trend has changed from down to up. I now do not take that short trade. This requires one to define trend and trend change with sufficient rigor as to allow for rules associated with the phenomena. The more exact one can be in defining all those apsects of price action that pertain to one's defined trading conditions, the closer one can get to eliminating discretion with rules, imho.

You can be a discretionary trader that uses a rule base trade method. On the flip side...you can be a discretionary trader with no rules or very little rules.

I define a discretionary trader as someone that is not 100% automated.

wrbtrader

Any disagreement between you and I on this matter is simply one of semantics. You define a discretionary trader as someone who is not 100% automated. I would define a discretionary trader as someone whose set ups and trade management were open to change based not on precise rules, but on what the trader thinks he or she "sees" or "feels" at the time.

A more helpful way would be to perhaps consider there to be a continuum where full discretion is on one end (no rules, no defined set ups, no money management or trade management algorithms), and complete rule based on the other. My point in my original response was simply that someone who is suffering as the OP is would likely benefit from moving as far from the discretionary side and as close to the rule based side as possible.
 
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