Quote from bat1:
My emotions are killing me!
they make sell my winning trades
and keep my losing ones,,,
I hope a pro here can give me a few pointers....
Ed
OP,
Lemmie guessâ¦
You take profit early because your âperceivedâ danger is â losing what you got
or
You allow a loser to run because you shut down (emotionally) not wanting to take small / reasonable loss â and sit there till it no longer can be ignored â and then of course its too damn lateâ¦.. iow â you basically sit staring at the screen unable to push the exit button until the pain is unbearable and your capital is wasted awayâ¦
or (letâs not forget the oldie but goodie)
You enter; price pops against you and catches you off guard⦠then comes back enticingly close to your entry â only to then dash off against you â all the while you sit and watch like a deer in the headlights
And Iâm sure there are a few other emotions I could espouse â such as the sweaty palms, labored breathing, heart palpitation just before/ as you enter a position...
So I wonder just how the hell I know this â well welcome to the club
Now if I were to also tell you â several folks here have offered up some good ole text book solutionsâ¦
Yes you could reduce your size and trade it till the cows come home⦠but once you increase it â rest assured your emotions will pop back up and start yellin â all over againâ¦
Yes you could develop a mechanical system â but when the inevitable draw down comes â thereâs your emotions yellin â change/ modify/ monkey with it because it ainât working (and maybe you should because the market has changed â but then again maybe you shouldnât because itâs just a drawdown) but would/ will you know the differenceâ¦. I doubt it
Hell you can even write rules till your blue in the faceâ¦. but will you follow them when it counts â No (I know this one all too well)
Hell Iâm even on the record for slapping the shit out of myself because I did not do what I should (follow my rules) â logically I knew what to do â but Iâll be damned if I could do itâ¦. Ah the good ole days â my ass
Yes emotions are a bitch â and they will continue to be so even as you climb the trading food chain â make no mistakeâ¦.. (stuff never goes away â it only gets magnified)
So imo it is infinitely better to fix it once and for all â then it goes away forever - and frees you up to trade with maximum efficiency and to your full potential
You are undoubtedly dealing with one of the biggies â and it will take commitment and work on your part to resolve
(Iâve received more than a few PMs asking for suggestions on how to control emotions â unfortunately I donât have any)
I could tell you what worked for me â but more likely than not it wouldnât be worth a damn to you. We are different people â and we each must learn to come to terms with our self, and trade â in our own unique way.
(This is what the gurus, mentor, shills never say as they would have us believe only they hold the secrets to the trading universe â my ass)
Here is a thought I would share though
Donât ignore your emotions (aka the voices screaming at you from within your head) instead identify them, completely lay them bare, learn to accept/ embrace / even love them⦠Ultimately youâll want to make them work for you
In other words;
Discover the origins of your voices/ emotions by identifying the conflict(s) causing them
Then work to resolve these conflict(s)⦠(each and every one â because the one you ignore will bite you in the ass at some point I can promise)
Now please know some of the conflict(s) you have may not be completely resolvable - but you can come to accept them and put them to restâ¦. (in my case on a couple â too much time had past â my only solution was to write letters and file them â and yes I still have those letters on file to this day)
So the first goal is to quiet down your voices/ emotions and remove any and all negative power they currently hold over you
The second goal is to befriend your voices/ emotions and turn them around to make them work for you â creating a positive force/ synergy within youâ¦
It makes for a very powerful trader...
Doing this (taking on this journey) is a real bitch, a royal PITA, a hell of a lot of work â and it will change the person you currently areâ¦
But it is doable â I am proof, and because Iâve done it â I am impervious (so much so that I must always take steps to ensure I remain humble â which btw some here mistake for insecurity â makes me lol when they do that)
Ultimately youâll find nothing (especially the mkt) can hurt or help you (the perceived danger or whatever is, and was always, only in your head â as it was in mine at one time)â¦.
Remember these absolute truthsâ¦
We create our own reality â always
We trade exactly who we are inside â and we have absolutely no choice in the matter
We must always be â detached, objective, and observant (think unbiased, unemotional, and watchful) when we trade â simply responding to what we see without hesitation
And (this is important)
You can read/ listen to what I, or anyone else for that matter â says, posts, teaches, or publishesâ¦. But until you do the work to make it your own â it ainât⦠and consequently it will be absolutely useless to you â until you do
Rest assured it is within you â to create a new you â should you decide to make it so
Successful Journey Sir
Just one dumb (and obviously wordy) redneck's perspective â nothing more
RN