How do u deal w/ emotions from outside trading, like girls(friends)?

[lemarche]

The ups and downs of a relation, of an ended relation, of a new relation affects our emotional balance (even if a relatively short one.. for a short period of time).

Have u noticed (like me) that it affects your trading and how do u deal with it?

Stopping trading everytime there is a "change"? Can be quite expensive in terms of days off... (Especially if u want to be a bit of a player lol)
Or settling for a serious relationship and trying to maintain that one as "stable"(emotion-less) as possible?

 

[luisHK]

lol, someone is enjoying his life in Madrid !

From experience I felt most satisfied with a long term relationship and extras on the side, that way you don't care too much about the up and downs of the shorter term relationship and can soften the stress of the main one with the extras. I know several guys for instance who reckon their marriage is going particulary well when they have lovers.
One problem is before you build a long term relationships you usually need to mess up a bunch of tentavive ones, it seems to be the phase troubling you at the moment, no need to get a shrink, have fun out there.

I'm trying to imagine traders during La Movida in Madrid who would take a break from trading everytime they broke off with someone - they must have retired before even starting working !

 

[Redneck]

Work is work...., play is play

Learn to compartmentalize


RN

 

[stevegee58]

Advice from the internet

 

[lemarche]

Haha Jorge, I guess HK isn't bad either
Good strategy I think, probably the one most people settle for? Thing is I don t really want to enter an LTR yet because I want to experience more, and basically an LTR does 2 things: reduce the amount of experience you can/want to have, and takes a lot of time/energy once you want to exit it (or when the other person does..).

Am not sure about Movida but I just thought about how very little is said about it in the Market Wizards books, when psychology is the main aspect of the series.

@Redneck: compartmentalize surely is the aim, subject of the post is "How.."...
@Steve...: my goal is not to live in a cave with my computers, altho surely there are times when that can help productivity...

 

[syswizard]

I know a guy like that....treats women like crap, worships his money.
Miserable wretch.....

 

[marketsurfer]

Your work and play should be the same thing--- if you only work on what you love, this will be the case.

 

[loyek590]

only the best of woman make good wives for traders, cops or farmers.

 

[Scataphagos]

"... Have u noticed (like me) that it affects your trading and how do u deal with it?

"Keeping your emotions in check" regarding trading means.... "having the discipline to do what you're supposed to even though emotionally you may question or not feel like doing so" when you should.

"Supposed to"... means, according to your methodology and style

Got noting to do with your love life*.... at least, shouldn't.

*Women scan screw with your life something awful, but shouldn't hose up your trading.

 

[Pricechange]

I have found, just for myself, that being a player disrupts both my investing and trading. I only began to become a successful trader once in a relationship for more than a year. Still play a little on the side but the long-term relationship is the main driving force behind my stable personal emotions. Also, once in a long term relationship, lowered my drinking/partying and I ended up moving to a different region than my parents/siblings and that helped as well. In fact I moved a few times and eventually found an area that suits my personality and needs.

Maybe good stable trading has a lot to do with maturity and growing up. I did not grow up yet in my early 20s, nor my mid 20s.