@markthepadrone , hi.
Firstly, don't take any abuse you get personally - there seems to be an un-written rule here that newbies are rarely treated with any respect. I got tons of insults and abuse when I started posting, and I couldn't understand why. It appears that a newbie is a convenient punching bag for the 'experienced' folk here, who want to boost their fragile egos. Just push back and don't be afraid to tell people what you really think.
Secondly, I've wheeled TQQQ myself, and I'm still bag-holding it. I got assigned at 70 (yeah seriously), and I can speak from first-hand experience that wheeling TQQQ is like playing with fireworks. They look great when they light up the sky, but not so much when they blow up in your face. TQQQ gives great premiums, due to it's extreme volatility and therein lies the double-edged sword. So, if you have the opportunity to get out of the trade, I would recommend it.
I assume your short puts will be assigned soon (maybe this weekend?) - just write calls against your stock and lower your cost basis and if you can get out at B/E, then do it, and count yourself lucky.
As for hedging with futures....hmm.....not sure that I would want to complicate the trade any more. For one, it's difficult to model the combo using broker software, and I like to have a visual image of the P/L chart of my trades. The idea of the Wheel is that selling calls against your stock is the 'hedge'.
Also, try selling puts which are more than one week out. This gives you more breathing space, albiet the daily theta decay is lower, of course.
Good luck.