I came in contact with Van Tharp in 1999. I found somethings I needed to work on, and went to a regular psychologist. The funny thing is that I even did not recognize I had troublesome behavior and I was self-sabotaging. I fought every inch about working on myself. I thought my youth was normal. I had no problems to overcome. Until I talked it over with a psychologist. No friends allowed in the house, no recognition, a parent that is narcissistic and controlled the whole family. You have physical abuse that you can recognize immediately, but mental abuse is not clearly visible, even when you go through it. You can spend a lifetime not knowing why you are who you are and what you do.