“Our values are preferences. We hold them because we love them, enjoy them, and get pleasure from them. If we tell somebody that we do something because we get enjoyment out of it, there is really nothing much they can say about it. However, if we tell them we do it because we are right in doing it, we will instantly see their hackles go up because they, too, have an opinion on what is right. The reason that pride arouses attack is because of the inference of being “better than,” which is part and parcel of pride. If we don’t take a prideful stance about our opinions, then we are at liberty to change them. How often have we gotten stuck in performing something we really didn’t want to do, because we had foolishly taken a prideful stance on an opinion! Very often we would like to have changed our mind or the direction in which we were going, but we got ourselves boxed in by having taken a prideful position. That brings up one of the resistances to surrendering pride, and that is pride itself. In the prideful position, one of the underlying problems is fear. We fear that, if we change our position in a certain matter, the opinion of others about us will be adversely affected.”
—David R. Hawkins