Unfortunately some like to play the victim in order to justify bad behavior or to blame their lack of success on wounds that have been healed decades ago.
I know. it's a reflection of UNAWARENESS. Some people simply don't know any better. With some people it simply doesn't click that it is a form of self-sabotage.
Everyone is on a different path. Some people are fairly asleep, some are more awakened.
Here is a nice quote by Wayne Dyer on that topic.
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