Quote from steve46:
Ultimately we are mostly the product of our upbringing. So if you are a loser in life, or an underachiever, chances are pretty good that you will be that same person when you trade. Certainly there can be exceptions, and no one can doubt that the human spirit can prevail at times. For the most part however, by the time we are adults, the die is cast.
I agree with the general thrust of this but disagree with some of the implied assumptions. (In fact please consider this post more a clarification than a disagreement.)
There is a fascinating book called 'On Intelligence' by Jeff Hawkins. Well worth reading. If Hawkins is on track, then the conscious / subconscious divide is useful as a heuristic but does not actually exist in a meaningful concrete way.
Biologists are discovering that much of what Freud thought and taught is bunk. At the same time, Freudian beliefs have so thoroughly infiltrated our society that it's natural for the average joe to think of the mind in Freudian terms, without questioning the model.
I include myself in that group -- while I have always been interested in psychology, it's only recently that I've taken an interest in the biological aspects of how the mind works. I made a lot of Freudian assumptions too, and now realize they have little merit.
Based on Hawkins' hypothesis, "you" are essentially your neocortex. All the patterns and memories that make you a unique individual are stored in your neocortex. There is no actual 'subconscious' as opposed to 'conscious'; there are simply vast hierarchies of patterns, with some of those patterns more accessible than others. (With that said, it remains useful to refer to the subconscious for discussion purposes, because the concept is so universally accepted.)
It is true that people are shaped from early days by patterns learned from their parents and their environment. It is also true that these patterns can be extremely hard to change, because the roots run so deep. What I disagree with is the notion that certain patterns are impossible to change, i.e. the fatalist notion that you are screwed for life if your upbringing was subpar.
The brain's key attribute is plasticity --- learning is little more than registering new patterns, breaking down old patterns, and combining patterns in new and complex ways that did not exist before. With this in mind, there is no reason why the most ancient patterns -- the ones we learned as children -- cannot be uprooted and replaced if need be.
It could take a lot of time, energy and effort to accomplish deep-rooted pattern change, no doubt about that. Maybe more effort than 99% of people are willing to expend. But that doesn't remove the possibility of success. Your neocortex is defined by plasticity. Your neocortex is also "you." Therefore, barring a debilitating chemical imbalance, you can become whoever you want to be (within the context of your environment).
Psychological studies have shown that the right combination of motivation and "self-talk" over time can have the same positive effects on depression patients as actual prescription drugs like Zoloft or Lexapro etc. I don't think this is magic; rather, it's the result of a painstaking process in which faulty or destructive patterns in the brain are 'rewired' via conscious effort. A healthy mind is more durable and less susceptible to the destabilizing effects of chemical change.
But rewiring deeply ingrained mental patterns is a very different thing than a pep talk. If you've been afraid of snakes all your life, you can't dissolve the fear by hyping yourself up or lying to yourself. The process is one of contemplation and understanding, where you focus on the issue with enough depth and detail to deliberately influence a whole host of patterns in your neocortex. In this manner, the fear can be dissolved rather than overcome. A dedicated process of understanding can thus enable new patterns that displace and destroy the old ones. Again, not magic. Just an understanding of how the mind works.
The process is painstaking because your neocortex doesn't respond to verbal commands. It doesn't "know" which patterns are good or bad, which connections to pay attention to, which connections to add or remove. That's why there is so much effort involved. It's also why I am skeptical of the instant-healing claims of NLP. If your fear of snakes is a physical thing -- that is, an actual configuration of patterns held in place by electrical tracers within your brain -- then you
cannot remove that fear instantly, and neither can anyone else... because no one, including you, has direct access to the interlocking mesh of patterns that created that fear in the first place. It's not a matter of saying "I think I'll change my mind now," even if you really, really want it to be. You have to get in there and dig for the unexpected connections, which is done via contemplation and rationally directed thought process. The process of positive change and the process of self-discovery are one and the same.
In my opinion, many of the problems traders have stem from an unwillingness to face the real world. I talked about 'realistic goals' in another psychological thread, Radical Constructivism or something like that. If you are trying to bring about a physically impossible goal, or don't actually understand your deeper motivations, or trying to bite off more than you can chew, then it doesn't matter how much energy and effort you put into the process -- it won't work.
The 'losers' and the 'underachievers' of this world are those whose thought processes are dominated by faulty or destructive patterns, such as a belief that success without hard work is deserved, or that those who succeed have access to some secret potion, or that raw motivation is the key to their problems rather than clarity and willingness to change.