And they know about each other.
From here on, I’ll refer to you as booby_mcboob
And they know about each other.
If she takes half your funds it will be easy for your lawyer to argue that logically you will make half your previous income going forward which will slash her spousal support.
It sounds like you've adapted to the current dating environment well. Guys, he's repeating verbatim what noted Sheryl Sandberg, a noted feminist, says in her book "Lean In".I'd like to dissect this post. Keep in mind, nothing works for everyone and I am a different person than you.
Agree. Marriage is a partnership. In the current climate, it is a business partnership. Love does not factor into it.
She is not part of the trading business. The only claim you can make here is that her caring for the kids freed up the man to make money. I can do that with a nanny and pay her $30K/year to do what I say with my kids. So why don't I pay the nanny 50% of my income?
My job is not to make my wife happy. Her job is to be happy, and she can come along for my ride. If she doesn't fit, she goes. Yes, it's not nice, I agree and this is why I tell all my girlfriends that we are not getting married because I would not be a good husband.
What's the right way? Here is a text (paraphrased) I got the other day from a woman I used to date: I’m very thankful for and appreciative of your advice, friendship, mentor and for our relationship in general. Is there anything I can do for you?
What do you think this means? It means I give women good feelings. I asked a woman what this meant and she said it means she wants to bump uglies. It is possible that I'm a sociopath and have no feelings (unlikely, I have strong reactions towards my kids) but there is no feeling a woman gives me that is worth anything to me. I like their friendship, I like sex, I like making them feel good, but it isn't something that satisfies my direction in life.
As I said, I have multiple women I see on a regular basis. I am currently trying to work out how to create multiple families with them. I will not be alone when I die, my kids are absolutely in love with me, and many women feel the same way.
The truth is that I want to live life on my own terms. I've seen that marriage greatly castrates you as a man (your post itself is something I cannot relate to). On top of that, the legal ramifications are just not worth it.
TL;DR different strokes, different folks.
I guess so. Not my woman. Mine comes first before money.LOL, you're kidding right? THIS IS STANDARD FOR MARRIAGE.
All women go through this. Whether you're "good to her" or not.
I guess so. Not my woman. Mine comes first before money.
did you mean to say his his wife can be up with the gardener?![]()
I was you at a point in my life. Until you actually experience a divorce, your outlook won’t change. I don’t hate women, but will never prioritize one again.
Ending up with the gardener is NOT the only way that a wife can destroy everything that a man has worked has worked his a$$ for. And honestly cheating is the way that a woman can hurt a man the least, I find. If she is cheating, at least she's found another person, another "goal in life" that she's ditching you for and she's actually not that keen on clawing every single penny out of you to get even and doesn't rest until you are completely hung dry.
No the WORST kind is the "scorned wife" kind, the kind that believes that she's given her "everything" to you and the marriage and at the end, you are treating her like s*** because of your work, your trading, your whatever, leaving her empty and your life is going up and up and better and better. One thing you need to remember about women is: The BIGGEST thing that women, especially western women (now women in wealthy cities elsewhere in the world too) cannot stand is their closest person being happier than them; they just CANNOT stand it. When it's stranger, she accepts it because she doesn't know them but when it's someone close to them, whether it's her friend, bff, her husband, her sister, her colleague, her neighbour who she THINKS is happier than them, that's what she cannot stand because I dunno maybe because she thinks she knows them and according to what she knows, she feels they don't deserve to be happier than her, especially her husband, somebody that she feels that she's sacrificed everything for. That's when she will be on a mission to destroy you to make you as unhappy as her. It's sad, very sad.
So word of advice on dealing with women especially living with them: Always try to make her FEEL psychologically happy and appreciate her. I know it's her job to be happy but helping her to feel happy still makes sense. DON'T GLOAT too much about what you have, whether it's health, wealth or just the fact that you got up and just feels great. No, ALWAYS complain about something and something that is not going well, you are not feeling well, you are not doing well...Give her gifts with words of appreciation but celebrate with the guys you TRUST.
So word of advice on dealing with women especially living with them: Always try to make her FEEL psychologically happy and appreciate her. I know it's her job to be happy but helping her to feel happy still makes sense. DON'T GLOAT too much about what you have, whether it's health, wealth or just the fact that you got up and just feels great. No, ALWAYS complain about something and something that is not going well, you are not feeling well, you are not doing well...Give her gifts with words of appreciation but celebrate with the guys you TRUST.
nooby_mcnoob,
We think different. My main purpose in LIFE is keep my woman/wife and kids ultimately happy and provide for them as needed. That is allll I am living for. That is my happiness and my purpose. I don't think about divorce, I think about happiness and having the right woman can make your life better then having X amount of women.
So there is nothing more for us to debate, you clearly stated "My job is not to make my wife happy" I think totally different, I strongly disagree with you. But maybe we have different upbringing.
So what more do you want to discuss. Live your life how you see fit.