Daytrading & Divorce.....

nooby_mcnoob said:
Usually when you feel you are wrong, you don't want to keep discussing. I sense that's what's happening here.
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nooby_mcnoob,

We think different. My main purpose in LIFE is keep my woman/wife and kids ultimately happy and provide for them as needed. That is allll I am living for. That is my happiness and my purpose. I don't think about divorce, I think about happiness and having the right woman can make your life better then having X amount of women.

So there is nothing more for us to debate, you clearly stated "My job is not to make my wife happy" I think totally different, I strongly disagree with you. But maybe we have different upbringing.

So what more do you want to discuss. Live your life how you see fit.
 
nooby_mcnoob said:
Possibly. But it's also very fundamental to who he is... Making it your job to make someone else happy is a signal of co-dependence and co-dependent people are very wary of having their worldview shattered.
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nooby_mcnoob,

Wrong again. Unfortunately, I was raised without a father in my life and lack of family structure in a poor community. I have seen alot of evil when a Husband/Father is not around. As a boy, I always told myself i am never leaving my kids. F**K a divorce. This is clearly communicated with my woman and she agreed from the start no divorces. I'm never leaving my kids. EVER.

Marriage to me and you is to separate things. I am living life for my woman and my kids. Period. I do what they tell me to do to make them happy. Their happiness, is my happiness. When you reach that level thinking, you will see what I mean.
 
SimpleMeLike said:
So what more do you want to discuss.
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So I'm sure you vetted your wife properly and divorce is not in your future but if either of you have a divorce in your history, or any number of variables against you, a divorce could happen.

Imagine, hypothetically, a divorce happens. If she's angry with you, you won't see your kids. Or $GOD forbid, your wife dies. You will lose all meaning in life. This, to me is dangerous. How can a trader take such a risk? Like someone else said here: there is no stop loss with marriage. Though a 50% drawdown will happen if you get divorced.
 
SimpleMeLike said:
nooby_mcnoob,

Wrong again. Unfortunately, I was raised without a father in my life and lack of family structure in a poor community. I have seen alot of evil when a Husband/Father is not around. As a boy, I always told myself i am never leaving my kids. F**K a divorce. This is clearly communicated with my woman and she agreed from the start no divorces. I'm never leaving my kids. EVER.

Marriage to me and you is to separate things. I am living life for my woman and my kids. Period. I do what they tell me to do to make them happy. Their happiness, is my happiness. When you reach that level thinking, you will see what I mean.
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Co-dependence, 101. Happens to men who didn't have fathers around. Yes, I think you made the right decision saying you're never leaving your kids but you're not done growing yet.
 
I'd like to point out that I have custody of both of my kids, kept most of the money, but it took a long time for her to get the point. The only reason this is possible is because I was completely unemotional about the outcome. Lose the kids? Meh. Get the kids? Meh. Share the kids? Meh. The evaluator hated that the kids were happy with me and she could also tell I didn't care. She ended up falsifying information to the court which was fun :) (because this isn't my first rodeo)
 
SimpleMeLike said:
nooby_mcnoob,

Wrong again. Unfortunately, I was raised without a father in my life and lack of family structure in a poor community. I have seen alot of evil when a Husband/Father is not around. As a boy, I always told myself i am never leaving my kids. F**K a divorce. This is clearly communicated with my woman and she agreed from the start no divorces. I'm never leaving my kids. EVER.

Marriage to me and you is to separate things. I am living life for my woman and my kids. Period. I do what they tell me to do to make them happy. Their happiness, is my happiness. When you reach that level thinking, you will see what I mean.
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I would also like to say that if your wife loves you, which I'm sure she does, she will absolutely love you more if you drop the co-dependence. As long as you don't become a dick like me (or maybe even more.) She probably feels pity for you sometimes, is my sense.
 
David Donner said:
Hello,

Going thru a divorce.

Traded part time before getting married, went full time during marriage.

Only traded my own money & didnt work for anyone else.

That has become my sole source of income.

During a divorce, could my daytrading be considered a business in which the spouse would be entitled to a chunk of the "business"?

I only file on sched D and form 8949. I dont have it set up as a business. But would a court consider it a business?

Thanks
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As manofire stated...this is not a suitable place to ask such a question.

Go see a lawyer.

By the way, you didn't mention your country location, you didn't mention if your soon to be ex is working or you if you have been supporting her, you didn't mention if there's children involved, you didn't mentioned if you're trading was registered as a business, you didn't mention many other things that even a lawyer could give you different answers depending upon your personal situation.

Seriously, go see a lawyer...he/she will better answer your concerns than ET forum.

P.S. Get all your records of tax, income documentations for the past 3 - 5 years in order...good chance your lawyer will request them. Be nice to the soon to be ex-spouse. It may save you a lot of money down the road.

wrbtrader
 
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SimpleMeLike said:
Marriage to me and you is to separate things. I am living life for my woman and my kids. Period. I do what they tell me to do to make them happy. Their happiness, is my happiness.
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This is all admirable. But know this: she will never love you like you love her.
Men are biologically designed to give and women are biologically designed to take.
So at the subconscious level, women do not love men, they instead love the things that men can provide them.
Women will feign love in the early years because that is what she needs to do to get you to impregnate her. But her kids are the only people she will really love, because she is biologically designed to nurture and provide for them.
 
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