Daytrading & Divorce.....

[jinxu]

You need to move on. I believe in trying my best to make a solid and supportive marriage but once the marriage is over, it's over. UNLESS something FUNDAMENTALLY changed or you see something SIGNIFICANT now that you have never seen before and that SIGNIFICANT thing is really game-changing, it's not worth it to go back to a marriage. I mean the marriage failed the first time for a reason, UNLESS that reason for failure is no longer existing, what makes you think the marriage won't fail the 2nd time if you go back to her? What if it fails the 2nd time?

If she is so keen on you now, WHY did she divorce you in the first place? She needs to move on and you need to move on too. Maybe you and @nooby_mcnoob should get together and @nooby_mcnoob can introduce you to some women.

Ex-Girlfriend. Not wife. She's in her 20's. And let's just say she went "crazy" on me.

Don't know. I meet a lot of women and they all are some type of crazy in one way or another. At least with the ex I already know what type of crazy she is. Women tend to be very good at hiding their crazy during the dating period.

I'm at the moment thinking if I could do some type of risk control on her.

 

[southall]

Ex-Girlfriend. Not wife. She's in her 20's. And let's just say she went "crazy" on me.

My bet is she thought she could do better than you. Now she knows she is not going to find anyone as good as you let alone anyone better, she wants back in.

 

[jinxu]

My bet is she thought she could do better than you. Now she knows she is not going to find anyone as good as you let alone anyone better, she wants back in.

Actually, I know she's the type that wants and need "Love" in relationship. She likes to watch shows like The Bachelor. And she probably believe I'm her soulmate or something.

The problem is for me, the more I think about it the more I wonder if I need "Love". Seems like a Trap to me.

 

[zdreg]

if I need "Love". Seems like a Trap to me

bull trap or bear trap?

 

[JSOP]

Ex-Girlfriend. Not wife. She's in her 20's. And let's just say she went "crazy" on me.

Don't know. I meet a lot of women and they all are some type of crazy in one way or another. At least with the ex I already know what type of crazy she is. Women tend to be very good at hiding their crazy during the dating period.

I'm at the moment thinking if I could do some type of risk control on her.

Ok that changes things a little. What do you mean by "she went 'crazy' on you"? Fatal Attraction kind of "crazy" or what? Care to elaborate? But anyway, what I said in the previous post still applies just replace "marriage" with "relationship" and "divorce" with "leave":

UNLESS something FUNDAMENTALLY changed or you see something SIGNIFICANT now that you have never seen before and that SIGNIFICANT thing is really game-changing, it's not worth it to go back to a marriage. I mean the marriage failed the first time for a reason, UNLESS that reason for failure is no longer existing, what makes you think the marriage won't fail the 2nd time if you go back to her? What if it fails the 2nd time?

If she is so keen on you now, WHY did she divorce you in the first place? She needs to move on and you need to move on too. Maybe you and @nooby_mcnoob should get together and @nooby_mcnoob can introduce you to some women.

Women are not any better in hiding her faults than men. You just have to know how and where to look and have good judgement. If you think women are good at hiding their feelings and faults, you think you know your ex better? Wait until you stay longer time with her, you are going to discover there is LOT more things that you don't know about her LOL, no different from getting to know a stranger woman right from the beginning.

My bet is she thought she could do better than you. Now she knows she is not going to find anyone as good as you let alone anyone better, she wants back in.

If she left him because she thought she could do better then she obviously thought @jinxu was not good enough. Nothing has changed about @jinxu now, WHAT makes she think that all of sudden @jinxu is good enough now? She's only going back to @jinxu because she's settling? That's even worse. UNLESS she's seeing @jinxu in a whole new light that she's never seen before and she felt that something FUNDAMENTALLY changed now, NEVER ever NEVER marry a woman because she is settling with you. She's NOT going to be happy throughout the whole marriage and she would NOT respect and appreciate @jinxu for who he is. In her mind, @jinxu is never her first choice and is also somebody that she married because she had no other choice. What do you think she's going to do when she's found someone that she thinks is her "first choice" while married? Marriage should be based on mutual admiration of each other. She should want to get married to you because she digs you and you are absolutely the best even if she's presented with a whole world of men not because she is settling and wants to have a baby. If she is just concerned about her biological clock, then she should visit a sperm bank, not tying down a man in a permanent relationship of marriage.

 

[nooby_mcnoob]

You need to move on. I believe in trying my best to make a solid and supportive marriage but once the marriage is over, it's over. UNLESS something FUNDAMENTALLY changed or you see something SIGNIFICANT now that you have never seen before and that SIGNIFICANT thing is really game-changing, it's not worth it to go back to a marriage. I mean the marriage failed the first time for a reason, UNLESS that reason for failure is no longer existing, what makes you think the marriage won't fail the 2nd time if you go back to her? What if it fails the 2nd time?

If she is so keen on you now, WHY did she divorce you in the first place? She needs to move on and you need to move on too. Maybe you and @nooby_mcnoob should get together and @nooby_mcnoob can introduce you to some women.

Meeting women is easy: volunteer, go to the park, not online. Get a dog too.

 

[lawrence-lugar]

Meeting women is easy

volunteer, go to the park, not online.
Get a dog

Dating and flirting and relationships and companionship and compatability and desire sounds easy and quick and simple in theory,
...But not so much in real life, in the real world , -- Well for some people, and certainly in my case, at least.

A whole bunch of variables must align with each other. -- kind of like the creation and foundation of splitting atoms and discovering the nuclear bomb.

When I was younger, women looked at me like I was Tom Cruise in Top Gun.
But now, women look at me like i'm a rapist....when I just came to help out,
When I was younger, I was buff and perky and innocent and happy with thick hair-- but now, I kind of look like a has-been.

But more importantly, it's 2018...Make Trading and Your Life Great Again...High-Five`
I always feel like eating champagne and a nice medium-rare porterhouse steak. and pecan pie and whip cream.
But I always eat it alone, with my beagle. There is no woman in my life.

 

[jinxu]

If she left him because she thought she could do better then she obviously thought @jinxu was not good enough. Nothing has changed about @jinxu now, WHAT makes she think that all of sudden @jinxu is good enough now? She's only going back to @jinxu because she's settling. That's even worse. UNLESS she's seeing @jinxu in a whole new light that she's never seen before and she felt that something FUNDAMENTALLY changed now, NEVER ever NEVER marry a woman because she is settling with you. She's NOT going to be happy throughout the whole marriage and she would NOT respect and appreciate @jinxu for who he is. In her mind, @jinxu is never her first choice and is also somebody that she married because she had no other choice. What do you think she's going to do when she's found someone that she thinks is her "first choice" while married? Marriage should be based on mutual admiration of each other. She should want to get married to you because she digs you and you are absolutely the best even if she's presented with a whole world of men not because she is settling and wants to have a baby. If she is just concerned about her biological clock, then she should visit a sperm bank, not tying down a man in a permanent relationship of marriage.

Doubtful. A hot, young, sexy, skinny girl? There would be a line of young dumb guys out there trying to wife her up. No doubt, girls can get sex easy. But what they crave is the "Love" and "Soulmate" fantasy. Know that and you know women.

 

[nooby_mcnoob]

When I was younger, women looked at me like I was Tom Cruise in Top Gun.
But now, women look at me like i'm a rapist.

Haha, no doubt you leer a bit too long Best strategy is to make fun of them right away.

 

[JSOP]

Doubtful. A hot, young, sexy, skinny girl? There would be a line of young dumb guys out there trying to wife her up. No doubt, girls can get sex easy. But what they crave is the "Love" and "Soulmate" fantasy. Know that and you know women.

But if your ex-gf thinks that you are her "soulmate" then WHY did she leave you? That's the million dollar question here. And no offence to your ex-gf, but "The Bachelor" style is the most shallow way to find "love". There is NO WAY that you can find true love just by dining and dancing under the moonlight, being in a hot tub, watching girls gossipping and catfighting each other. The whole show is staged and is actually a fraud. The show's goal and agreement is that at the end, there is going to be a real wedding engagement. The show is in how many seasons now? Only about 1 or 2 couples actually ended up in real engagement that actually led to a real wedding. The majority of the couple just ended up as friends, a complete violation of the show's goal and agreement after all those fanfare and blah blah blah.

If your ex looks up to that kind of entertainment show as the model to find true "love", then if I were you, I would have her stay as my ex. LOL But that's just me. It looks like it's YOU, @jinxu that needs to decide what do you want and what to do. LOL