I like your posts Handle because they are so real. You capture very well the mind of the beginner trader.Some did pass and few of them didn't do well in real time cause stress reduces memory, like deer in headlights.
This is why I rather see someone get good first trading long term, as it takes so many hours to experience reading charts and memorizing your Trading Plan. Most discount trading long term, but if you get good at long term, you have a way to expand your 401k, less fees makes for huge difference as well. Day trading, even at $4 bucks roundturn in futures time ten trades each day comes to $10k for the year and that is double what many smaller retail day traders start. Fees really add up.
Most don't realize you have to do 100-200% a year to just pay the fees, 95% of them should have never tried to learn to day trade, but someone has to sweep up their losses. To day trade well, you have to train your mind to unlearn what it thinks in terms of being normal, prices dropping so you waiting for it to drop to buy the market as this has the highest chances of being profitable within rules of your Trading Plan, whereas breakout trades are highest risk of failing and it has often the highest risk. People love "feel good trades" price going up they getting in and often times by then I am getting out, it is often this way of me getting out when retail getting in. You have to lose your constant of "self", you have to be cold hearted trading and want people to lose all their money to you, not different than Casinos.
But I still have to disagree with you on the long term trading aspect and you make a point above that I think shows this. When you talk about the stress of real time because it reduces memory, like a deer in headlights, I think this is exactly why a trader has to see this initially for himself, in real time, and perhaps even over and over again in the span of just a day or two. If you're swing trading, I think the memory shouldn't be an issue since you have lots of time to look up your chart patterns of refer to your trading plan. But if you do take a few losses in a row, but they are days apart, you won't react the same. Your body won't remember the pain as well. Now granted, the point isn't to feel the pain of the loss since a loss shouldn't affect you at all, but if these trades are far apart, the effect of the loss will diminish in your body, which makes it have less of an impact, which maybe makes it seem less important, which therefore perhaps makes problems not appear as soon as they might in day trading.
I don't doubt that there are benefits to long term trading, and as you say, commissions is a big one, but I still don't think that trading long term will allow a trader to become a real trader faster.
Your point about 19 out of 20 winnings days though is another thing that doesn't sit right with me. I'm not sure how 19 out of 20 winnings days fits in with a win percantage on trades, but it would surely be very high. To focus on getting this win % so high before you get off of SIM will, in my opinion, also delay going live, and if you delay going live, you delay seeing what your actual problems are. You of course don't need a high win rate to be profitable given the risk:reward ratio used, but by forcing yourself to not go live until you're essentially a super trader will have its own drawbacks.
I remember a trader on here, Lescor, who I think lots of people respected I remember that he would share stats from his trading. Here is one post I dug up.
http://www.elitetrader.com/et/index...ut-day-after-day.187730/page-104#post-2910723
winning days 93 (65%)
losing days 51 (35%)
$ sum winning days $850k
$ sum losing days -$323k
daily profit factor 2.6
We see that his winning days are only 65%, which is much less than 95%, for 19 out of 20, and yet, he is still highly profitable. What's also interesting here is how much money he loses in comparison to how much he makes. This post was from mid year, and it seems like he is up about 500k here and finished the year up about 800k maybe.
My point is that if you focus on too high of a target for SIM trading, a trader will never go live, and see for himself what other problems he might actually have. Also, by focusing on such a high win rate, you really miss focusing on consistency. Even 50% winning days would be fabulous if your winning days make 1k and your losing days you lose 0.5k. This strategy would lead to very nice profits over the long term.