now sure what has transpired in these pages but things I wish my dad did.. that he didn't
-follow and encourage my interest
-even know my interests and passions
-allow me the space, time, money to pursue these interests
-encourage failure
-teach me to get excited by challenges
-the journey is the fun, because the destination lasts one second
seriously though, if you want your kid to define success by what he makes and the title he says he does ( which is not WHO he is.. ) then that is failure in my eyes. Im not even sure if you do, but this is 99% of Americans as evidence by wanting them to be a doctor or Lawyer or something that makes mega money... if you are at work 8+ hours a day, shouldn't you LOVE what you do, be excited by it, endless life long learning, fulfills your spirit.. because sitting in a mansion with the trophy wife being miserable is what comes when you have a job you don't love, or your main goal was money and you actually achieved it.
the highest level things are always simple.. we are all programmed with what we love to do inside, it just needs to be expressed and nurtured in various ways. Ans you won't like this as if you were raising him right you would have followed the child and this discussion wouldn't need to take place, he would have automatically persued what he was interested in, instead of mom and dad throwing out ideas to him. "go do this, don't you like that, this sounds interesting, oh this helps people, wow that seems like a good fit... ... .... "
Great post above! @vanzandt
If your kid doesn’t know what their passion is encourage world travel. It’ll ground how good they have it now as well as an appreciation for how other cultures approach problems.
Also, sometimes it takes working sucky deadend jobs to gain clarity.
Putting up a stake seems supportive. It’ll be more effective if it’s sourced from within them. Otherwise they will be doing whatever it is to please you. That includes any ideas you give them.
With all that said,
Renovating houses can work out well. It will expose them to all the trades. It contains all the elements one needs to master entrepreneurship. It’s tangible and if one focuses more on affordable housing vs McMansions if fulfills a real need.
At first lot’s of hands on, then moving to contracts.
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If he’s socially and environmental aware then also permaculture/natural building as applied to the above. Having hands in the earth can re-orient the listless.
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