It's really all the same to you, isn't it?
No, its not all the same thing, thats the whole point im trying to make, the point you seem to keep missing.
This weekend i went golfing and fishing with a few other guys, during the weekend we made lots of jokes about each others golf shots, or each others casts while we were fishing, something along the lines of "You like to put from the rough" if someone was putting from the rough. ( a question on each others manliness/sexuality)
Thats the kind of joke i would feel perfectly comfortable making among friends, questioning another guys manliness, or straightness is not something new when a bunch of dudes get together. I know these guys arent gay, sorry to say but thats how guys act with each other.
If you walked into a hockey room, or any liberal newscaster walked into a hockey dressing room, you would think everyone was a homophobe.
The truth is over time i learned to bite my tongue with a comment like that, we used to all call each other faggots, but that was also a term of endearment, as much as an insult back then, i would call someone and be like "Whats up you faggot" or someone would call me and say the same kind of thing.
I learned later in life, by having a few people i played hockey with coming out as homosexuals how that was not right, so should my whole life be ruined because i was conforming to what every single person talked like playing hockey growing up?
My own friends who are homosexuals dont seem to think im a homophobe, but im pretty sure if everything i ever said was posted to millions of people id never find a job again. Do you think thats right?
Have you never questioned a guys manliness when your among friends, and you know that no one you are with is gay?
We have also made lots of jokes about each others ethnicities, you dirty wop, i always get called a nazi cause im german, etc, etc, but its all in good fun, context is everything. Ive had friends joke about me being a fat fuck and ive joked about them being a skinny bastard, the point is we all know each other and we are willing to make those kinds of jokes about each other, its funny, cause its soo offside, thats what makes the joke.
You are acting incredibly disingenous here dude.