Brokeback Mountain

I pick #7.

  • Saw it, loved it.

    Votes: 8 9.2%
  • Saw it, shrug.

    Votes: 8 9.2%
  • Saw it, blech.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Started it, walked out.

    Votes: 1 1.1%
  • Want to see it.

    Votes: 5 5.7%
  • Don't care if I see it or not.

    Votes: 23 26.4%
  • Will never see it, ever.

    Votes: 38 43.7%
  • I wanna be a cowboy!

    Votes: 4 4.6%

  • Total voters
    87
Quote from spect8or:

So what if they are born that way? To me, all that means is they are born with a debilitating medical condition. That alone hardly justifies celebrating their repulsive behaviour.

You can think what you want about gay people, but when you call homosexuality a medical condition that is a factual error. The mental health professions define disorders by their negative effect on the patient. By the '70s it was becoming quite clear that homosexuality alone was not debilitating, by the simple evidence of so many homosexuals living their lives without any sign of abnormal distress. As a result, homosexuality has not been classified as a disorder for more than 30 years.

Martin
 
Quote from spect8or:

No, it's not personal experience. I don't see why that should mean I shouldn't look upon what I can learn about the era approvingly.
I'm not saying you can't. Think what you want! However, in my experience, people who speak positively about the '50s did not live through them, and those who did live through the '50s don't have a lot of nostalgia for that era.

As for the paranoia etc, sure, you'll find people in every era who feel that way.
Talk to some elderly folks and ask them which decade in their lives had the greatest sense of fear and paranoia.

Martin
 
Quote from spect8or:

Could you explain to me what living their lives in dignity would look like?

For example, back in my office-work days, I had a boss who was gay. Incredibly smart and well spoken and, as far as the job went, I looked up to him. But during coffee breaks he'd often talk in such a way as to draw allusion to his homosexuality. I found that extremely off-putting. Whose "rights" would trump whose here, according to your "dignity model"?

Were I to have a friend who "came out", I don't think, in all honesty, that I could maintain my friendship. At least, not in the same manner. I mean, I might feel sorry for him, but I could never look approvingly on that behaviour. Really, I'd fault him for coming out. I don't think gays should "come out". I really don't.
To be candid, spect8or, I'm not sure what the "dignity model" would look like. But we are talking about compassion for law abiding, productive human beings here, not criminals. I imagine that after the Civil War, many of the South's plantation owners were commiserating about the "good old days" before slavery was abolished. And while their lives may have had to undergo some difficult changes, I think it was for the best, don't you? Well, now we recognize that we have another form of oppression against people who, similarly, are being persecuted simply for who they are.

Make no mistake. I am extremely glad that I am straight and I would not wish homosexuality upon anyone. Aside from being glad that I am attracted to women, I would hate to be persecuted for no other reason than because I am being true to my own nature which does not cause outward harm to anyone else. What a world it must be for those who were born that way -- for people who are not allowed to be true to themselves as the rest of us are. Can you imagine living in a world like that? Well, we do. We just happen to be on the other side.

As for friends, to each his own. As I said earlier, I do not have any friends who I believe are gay. If a good friend decided to "come out," yes I would be surprised and it would not be very comfortable. But since the friendship was not formed on the basis of sexuality, I would hope it would not necessarily end on that basis. Having said that, I will admit that I would still be somewhat uncomfortable if a gay person openly displays his homosexuality. And I cannot tolerate flamers for the same reason that I find any extreme behavior offensive, on either side of the spectrum. But that's just me, and I don't expect the world to revolve around just me and people like me.
 
Quote from Sparohok:

You can think what you want about gay people, but when you call homosexuality a medical condition that is a factual error. The mental health professions define disorders by their negative effect on the patient. By the '70s it was becoming quite clear that homosexuality alone was not debilitating, by the simple evidence of so many homosexuals living their lives without any sign of abnormal distress. As a result, homosexuality has not been classified as a disorder for more than 30 years.

Martin

You dont think there was a little bit of lobbying going on? Not that there is anything wrong with lobbying.
 
Quote from spect8or:

You are speaking theoretically. I am speaking factually. There is absolutely no requirement for homosexuals to exist in the world in order for heterosexuals to likewise exist. One could simply conceive of (in the mind) a people who favor sex within gender and call them homosexuals without one ever having to physically exist.

Anyway, more importantly, who cares?

At the moment you conceive of the one group "who favor sex within gender" you immediately imply, that is "create" the other group.
 
Quote from spect8or:


Most criminals are "born that way", too, in the sense of possessing a proclivity for crime greater than the average.

False. I spent a decade amongst them, I know. "Most" are made.
 
Because:

a) no one wants to see two guys going gay and,
b) no one has faith in Hollywood offering anything new

Quote from saxon:

hmm...interesing poll results:

Only 13% of those who voted even SAW the picture!! :p

case closed.
 
Quote from Ricter:

False. I spent a decade amongst them, I know. "Most" are made.

Whaddya know, so did I. In what capacity, may I ask? I was almost one of them.

In any case, simply spending time with them doesn't really give one the authority to declare to what extent they were born or made.

Research, some quite disturbing research, when you think about it, has shown, imo, quite conclusively, that a large amount behavior we once considered to be the result of nurture is instead the result of nature. Why should criminal behavior be exempt from this?

I am speaking, of course, in terms of proclivities, not preordination. Just because Joe's nature is more criminal than Bill's doesn't mean Joe will commit more crime than Bill. But in the absence of traditional restraints - such as we have since the 60s - Joe's criminal nature is given more opportunity to flower.
 
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