Originally posted by DT-waw
3. Same applies to life. Can your decisions bring you more success? Your life decisions will bring success only if things/events/situations are "on your side". If you don't have luck, you'll not succeed. Think about approx 4,5 bilion people in this world who's living standards are very poor. When we are born, we are all the same, or we differ due to genetic or other issues that are beyond our control. Than life goes on, some people have a great life, some not. Is it because people have completly different level of skills, intelligence? I don't think so.
your comparison of success in trading and success in life is an interesting one.. first of all, success in trading means being disciplined by following the rules of a trading system that when adhered to produces a profit.. success in life is obviously much more broad.. its conducting your life in such a way that you have a loving family, are respected by those around you, provide for the needs and wants of those you love, are responsible, have integrity, are faithful to your religious convictions, contribute something to the world, etc..
ive travelled to many countries that have huge numbers of disadvantaged people.. in fact, ive spent time in Mozambique, the poorest county in the world.. in Mozambique i met a man whose name is Simon Mudiwa.. he grew up in a poor border town near Mutare, Zimbabwe.. as most africans, he was raised by his mother.. when he was about 16, there was a civil war in Mozambique.. guerillas were attempting to overthrow the government there.. Simon joined up and became a guerilla soldier.. it was a brutal war.. in tribal countries of Southern Africa, there is no distinction made between civilian and military.. its all about what tribe you are from.. so often times the guerillas would return home and find their villages destroyed, people gutted.. or the bodies missing, just the heads left on the table in the hut.. as you can imagine, Simon became a very cold and calloused man.. he learned that to succeed, you just take what you want.. and never to let people stand in his way.. Simon became quite a soldier, and was eventually promoted to be a bodyguard to the president of Zimbabwe.. in that country, power and respect are everything.. and no one has more power than the witchdoctors.. so Simon set out to become a practitioner of magic.. he went to a hill, and beat a drum for several days, trying to make the spirits possess him.. he told me that this had been unsuccessful and he became very depressed.. one night he was outside and a stranger approached him to talk about Christianity.. he said he listened for a minute, and then told the man that he would check it out, but if the man was lying, Simon promised to kill him.. so, after some time, Simon became a Christian and began to apply Christian values to his life.. he left his job as a soldier, and went back to live in the village with his mother.. a local missionary heard about his story and asked him to come to the US as part of a multicultural group that would travel around and share in schools and churches about their respective countries.. in the US, he met the love of his life, a young lady also part of the group from Kenya.. after the trip, they became engaged.. Simon was invited to the US to help with an american missionary group that wanted to travel there.. so Simon came back to the states.. when he arrived in the US, he received a call that his fiance had been in an automobile accident.. she was paralyzed from the waist down.. now, in Africa it is unheard of for a man to marry a cripple.. a man needs a beautiful and hard working wife to be respected.. but Simon is so faithful.. he never wavered.. he went home and they were married.. about 2 years later, his wife became pregnant.. about 7 months into the pregnancy there was a problem, so Simon took his paralyzed wife to the local hospital.. they refused to admit her at first, and then when she was finally admitted, they neglected her and she lost the baby..
so here is Simon.. he grew up in absolute poverty by anyones standards.. he grew up without his father.. he was subjected to the mental anguish of the atrocities of a brutal war.. his fiance was paralyzed just before they were married.. his first son was killed at the hands of negligent doctors.. "things/events/situations" were clearly not on his side.. but lets evaluate his success based on his decisions.. he and his wife have a wonderful, loving relationship.. they also now have a 2 year old little boy.. Simon is respected by everyone who knows him.. he is the most faithful person i have ever met.. he now oversees operations in Kenya for a US para-church organization.. and one last important thing, Simon is a very happy man.. there is no bitterness, no self pity.. on the contrary, he is very grateful for all of the blessings in his life..
i could tell you many other stories of people i know who have overcome incredible obstacles and disadvantages to find success in their lives.. and we all know of those who have had every advantage only to lose everything to drugs, alcohol, suicide, etc.. in the end, its not what happens to you in life that matters.. its how you decide to handle it that counts.. trading is exactly the same..
-qwik