How much capital are you looking to raise?
$25K in an IRA + $20K in personal stuff you can sell = $45K.
You don’t need more than this to reboot. I would say $20K is a good initial deposit for futures, so you have two shots at getting back in the groove.
That is, if you know how to be in the groove in the first place.
In the spirit of brutal honesty, your description of your past results makes that questionable.
There are easier ways to make money than being a beginner at futures trading. The rational thing to do is to get a job to upgrade the lifestyle for yourself and your family and learn to trade as a hobby.