I have a family (a daughter ;-) I think the big mistake is
to pursue this as a holly grail. Very few can be successful
at short term trading. that's why I decided to go for longer
time frame where I have a chance on a long run. I make
very good money as a computer contractor (or even as a FT
IT jock, my chances to make 120K a year trading is not
that great, my saving potential is also good - my wife is
very thrifty and I try to control myself, no more poker
for me !!!!

Most daytraders will and do fail eventually. I played poker very actively, traded futures on the floor and I have some understanding of the math involved regarding - "chace of ruin" calcs and probability calcs regarding the frequency of trials vis a vis added vig (read commissions) you have a deck stacked against you !!! I mean very badly !!!!!!!!
I don't expect you to listen or even agree here, where
obviously the forum is for the glorification of the short
term trader. The alternative is trade part time, switch
funds around, save !!! Invest in the stock markets when
the fed eases, short it when rates go up...have some junk
bonds investments(best risk reward asset class of all !!!)
All I am saying is to open your horizons guys, cause
there are many ways to skin a cat...
I admire all who have the intestinal fortitude to try this
and the courage to stick with it If you are young and single you will learn a lot from Day trading, mostly
how to handle losses and learn patience in life !!!!