A Poll for women only

[nitro]

When you were growing up, do you remember either of your parents encouraging you to marry for money, or to marry for love? I have even heard, marry for money first, and then for love, as if initial failure is guaranteed.

Please, women only. No transvestites, no sex change people, no hermaphrodites. Only the original natural born product.

 

[PAPA ROACH]

Not to infringe, but how many women peruse ET? Not likely to be an significant sample for you here. Too bad, I would love to know the answer.

 

[nitro]

Google results give an indication, but I am extremely skeptical:

...The book confirms what mothers have been telling their daughters for generations: "Girls are told at their mother's knee: "It's just as easy to love a rich man as a poor man." Or, "No Romance without Finance." And, "Marry the one you can live with, not the one you can't live without."

Many women would agree that one good man in the boardroom is better than two in the bedroom...

http://www.google.com/#hl=en&source...-m1&oq=do+women+marry+for&fp=5b7cf21b103219ea

They contend that smart women marry for money. FWIW, my ex-wife was a professor at a University. When she married me, I was stone broke (I had a job but it was as a programmer, a wage slave).

 

[Covertibility]

Ahem, Keeping Up With Being Kept

It's 2010, get with the program.

 

[nitro]

Quote from PAPA ROACH:

Not to infringe, but how many women peruse ET? Not likely to be an significant sample for you here. Too bad, I would love to know the answer.

We must try.

"It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat." - Theodore Roosevelt

"Citizenship in a Republic,"
Speech at the Sorbonne, Paris, April 23, 1910

 

[nitro]

Quote from Covertibility:

Ahem, Keeping Up With Being Kept

It's 2010, get with the program.

It is because it is 2010 that I am still stupefied by such things.

 

[Pension_Admin]

IMHO, women are told to marry for a better life.

A lot of women see a marriage as a new beginning. A new life with a better lifestyle.

Some of them will draw causation between money and happiness (due to media) and would ultimately choose to marry someone that have more money than them.

However, there are some strong women who could get the better life themselves and don't need to marry for rich. So they marry the handsome-looking guy instead.

PA

 

[nazzdack]

Quote from Covertibility:
Keeping Up With Being Kept.
It's 2010, get with the program.

1) ?...... a convenience store for adulterers, the best fishing hole I've fished in.....OMFG! Would it be cheaper and more exciting to fly overseas for "that" instead?
2) It's not prostitution! It's just that women are committed to money more than ever.

 

[nitro]

Well, the problem is you are not a woman. I am not so interested if they do or do not marry for money, as I am interested when they decided, and who influenced them in this direction. One is symptom, the other is the disease.

I have a daughter, and I could never see myself telling her to marry for money. In fact, I would tell her that being in love is only half the route to happiness. The other half is who each of you turn into when you are around each other - the best in you, or are you constantly fighting? One is lust, the other is genuine. As for her mother, I can't imagine a mother sentencing her own daughter to creature comforts over a real connection with someone. Perhaps it is us men that women fall in love with that end up dissapointing. Whereas, when a person has achieved some financial success, all other things being equal, it is indicative of a responsible person and shows a higher level of comitment and discipline, and the odds of dissapointment are far less. Heck, I even think that some women will check your credit rating. Gross.

I have friends that believe that love is a myth invented by poets. I couldn't disagree more, and in fact, there is scientific evidence for it at a genetic level.

The Poll may have been doomed from the beginning. Few people like being the object of a "psychological profile", even if done anonymously, and I probably didn't word it correctly. As stated, it probably comes accross as judgemental.

Oh well.

Quote from Pension_Admin:

IMHO, women are told to marry for a better life.

A lot of women see a marriage as a new beginning. A new life with a better lifestyle.

Some of them will draw causation between money and happiness (due to media) and would ultimately choose to marry someone that have more money than them.

However, there are some strong women who could get the better life themselves and don't need to marry for rich. So they marry the handsome-looking guy instead.

PA

 

[Illum]

You getting married? Worried about your bank account perhaps? Heh