Quote from NoDoji:
Coming up on 2 years day trading, this is still a huge struggle for me. Lately with the more volatile price action, I've hesitated to take trades because my stop would be "too wide". The setup is very valid, but I let the $$ factor keep me out.
As for the danger of not treating each trade as brand new, it can be extremely expensive.
Today I had several scratch trades mainly from moving my stops to b/e too quickly instead of trusting that my target would be lifted. So I left several hundred dollars on the table. I then took a mediocre setup (out of frustration, wanting to get back what I left behind) and allowed that trade to ride without moving the initial stop and guess what? That stop was hit.
Finally, I trade a truly excellent setup with confluence from all angles. On a scale of 1 to 10, this setup was a 9. I set an initial target and leave my stop in place. Price comes within 3 ticks of my target and pivots, so I exit for what I consider a very decent profit. Technically there is no reason whatsoever for me to exit the trade. No technical reason at all. I exit it because my formerly red P/L is now green. Price moved another .85 ($850) from my exit point. Had I simply trailed a stop above each bar's high, I'd have walked away with $610 of that additional move.
You have to write down the rules and repeat them every day, I think. I believed I had these issues under control and now they creep back in based on varying market conditions.
Best of luck to you on that!
I think most of this behavior stems from one thing, trust.
Its so hard to fully trust your methodology because losses are just a normal part of the business. There is always that part of you that says, I'm probably wrong here. Its like getting punched repeatedly by the bully in school yet continuously engaging him in conversation.
