11 Things you always wanted to know about Lesbian sex

[nitro]

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What I want to know is do lesbians allow straight men into their bed for straight sex

 

[nitro]

My favorite "Sex in the City" babe.

 

[nitro]

Arab women are resorting to all sort of clandestine acts to appear to be virgins at marriage:

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[nazzdack]

Quote from nitro:
----lesbians....
----straight men....
----straight sex....

1) ?..... If they did, that would make them "bisexual" instead of "lesbian"......as long as they aren't total "man-haters".
2) This is the type of thread that gets started when things slow down at the end of the year. :eek:

 

[nitro]

Quote from nazzdack:

1) ?..... If they did, that would make them "bisexual" instead of "lesbian"......as long as they aren't total "man-haters".
2) This is the type of thread that gets started when things slow down at the end of the year. :eek:

I don't think that being lesbian necessarily implies that this woman hates men. I suspect it is more of a dissapointment than anger or hate. Also, I do believe that there are people that simply do not find the opposite sex appealing. The whole "lifestyle gay" thing is probably overblown.

 

[Baron]

Quote from nitro:

I don't think that being lesbian necessarily implies that this woman hates men. I suspect it is more of a dissapointment than anger or hate.

It agree with that completely. I have met very few women, lesbians included, that I couldn't sweep on their feet completely. If you meet their core needs, such as their desire to be listened to and taken care of, then they will literally be putty in your hands from that point forward.

From a sex standpoint, I know lesbians that have sex on an infrequent basis, and even when they do, it's unfulfilling. This is because for women, a satisfying relationship starts in the brain first, and the physical part that follows is just a manifestation of what's already occurred in their head.... which could be with a man, another women, etc.

 

[nitro]

Quote from Baron:

It agree with that completely. I have met very few women, lesbians included, that I couldn't sweep on their feet completely. If you meet their core needs, such as their desire to be listened to and taken care of, then they will literally be putty in your hands from that point forward.

From a sex standpoint, I know lesbians that have sex on an infrequent basis, and even when they do, it's unfulfilling. This is because for women, a satisfying relationship starts in the brain first, and the physical part that follows is just a manifestation of what's already occurred in their head.... which could be with a man, another women, etc.

I agree, but the way you say it is sort of apologetic for being a man. When you say "meet their core needs", I think men are too tolerating, or too maleable, in this manner. You should be yourself, and if that doesn't meet their core needs and vice versa, your relationship is a timebomb waiting to happen. However, being yourself without knowing how to grow up, or change those things that need changing, is the healthy tension between growing up and losing yourself to please someone else. In this way, a mentor or role model is very important. I have found that men that have sisters are far more likely to get along with women than those that don't. It's not scientific, just an intuitive observation.

The desire to procreate is so great in youg men and women that we compromise much of who we are just to "meet in the middle." I have also noticed that women from different parts of the world have different personality quircks (men also but in predicatable ways), and it helps to understand what these are if for no other reason than to keep your own sanity. So having doubt so you can grow, and confidence to be in a relationship, offers lots of opportunity for reflection and growth.

Now, here is where I think this kind of reflection can help. With every relationship you are in, you will learn quite a bit about yourself (and women in general, but we tend to generilize poorly). Some of those experiences are a natural part of growing up. But those experiences that you like about yourself, under no conditions should you change those for anybody, not even if she was the last woman on earth.

I was reading a book recently by a woman psychologist that specializes in this sort of thing, and I had to rush out and I did not bother to write down the title. Wish I could remember it so that I can recommend it - she had so much wisdom on these things. Oh well.

 

[nitro]

One more thing that is pretty obvious that we (men) need to understand:

a) Women drive evolution more than men.
b) During war times, women will tend to choose mates that will create strong aggressive offspring. (maybe because wimps die so there is nothing left to choose from.) During peace, women will tend to choose "wimpy" type men that help out with children, "are in touch with their feminine side", etc. Nothing wrong with that, just know what you are getting into.
c) You are often in a relationship not just with the woman, but her family and friends as well.

You might say, what about women that are no longer looking to have children? Doesn't matter. Even thought they are either past that age or no interested in children, they tend to choose mates in the same way, even though that no longer makes sense.

These are also general observations that are not scientific, but follow from intution and logic.

 

[Humpy]

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[Baron]

Quote from nitro:

I agree, but the way you say it is sort of apologetic for being a man. When you say "meet their core needs", I think men are too tolerating, or too maleable, in this manner.

The tolerating and submissive type of guy you are referring to certainly thinks he is meeting his woman's needs, but in reality, all he's doing is letting his woman run over him. Over time women lose attraction to a guy like that who is too soft and "maleable" as you mentioned.... and why? Because that's not the kind of guy she really wants at all. She wants her man to "really be a man". She wants him to lead. She doesn't want to wear the pants, but as you mentioned, most guys eventually cave in emotionally and start tolerating way too much. Eventually she loses respect for that guy, which is the exact opposite effect that any guy ever wants, and the relationship falls apart. Soon thereafter, she finds another guy (or a lesbian) who is stronger and better qualified to be a partner.

So, meeting a woman's core needs isn't about accommodating her every whim. That's just relationship suicide.

Like I said, she just wants her man to be a real man, which often manifests itself in the form of leadership, and providing security for her on a variety of levels. But even when a man is leading, and even when he is providing, she also desperately needs for him to be able to sit down and really listen to her when she's an emotional wreck and needs to vent, and that means really listening, not half-watching her with one eye while the other eye is on the game, all while saying.... "Uh huh.".... "Yep"..... etc.

It sounds exhausting trying to pull all that off seamlessly, and it sometimes it is, but what the man gets in return makes it all worthwhile, which is a woman who respects him.... a woman who desires him and wants to have sex with him whenever he wants it.... and most importantly, a woman who loves and idolizes him.

I could keep going but I know this thread is technically about lesbian sex so I don't want to get too far down the heterosexual trail.