ultimately it comes down to what you what to recognize as your achivement ...
bettering your ex-wife is very, very, very loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooow
on the list, after all...